How to Transform + Attract Your Dream Reality

I used to hate my body. I used to say unkind words to myself in the mirror, daily. I would pick every ounce of myself apart at the construct of another. I would view the number on a scale as a definitive measure of my self-worth.

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With social media and technology giving us the ability to connect with anyone around the world, it also leaves behind a notion of disappointment within ourselves.

Why don't I have a body like her? Ugh, she has my dream car. Wow, what a perfect couple, engaged already? Wow. Look at her skin? Look at his body? Look at their beautiful $6 million dollar mansion.

It is so easy to sit and scroll for hours comparing yourself, your timeline, and your worth to others. Social media, while a great tool if used properly, gives us a greater capability within ourselves to be our own worst critic. We compare ourselves to what others have accomplished, and where they are at within life, especially if they're younger than us.

But we fail to understand as a society that everyone has their own path, their own timeline, and their own journey that was meant for them to experience, not us.

- I used to look at others all of the time and criticized my own life in comparison to theirs, and you know what I did?

I kept saying, I wish I wish I wish...

And in doing so, I underestimated my ability to create and attract the life I wanted based on my own life's path and purpose, rather than in comparison to someone else's.

Am I where I want to be? No, not even close, but through what I've learned over the last few years, especially in this last year, I have gained a better understanding, more knowledge, and with that, even more power on how to cultivate, attract, and live through my own purpose and journey, without the idea and romanticized narrative of someone else's journey that I've built in my head. And I'm going to share the exact tools that have helped me lose weight, attract a following on instagram, led me to finding my life's purpose, and what led me to finding love, freedom, and a better relationship with myself and the life I continue to live each and everyday.

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Five Ways to Transform Your Life

Journaling

Journaling has always been a practice that has been close to my heart, as I love to write. Clearly. But journaling used in a way for emotional healing was one of the most notorious ways I used it, and still do, especially in this last past year.

We all have darker emotions within us, whether it's anxiety, depression, sadness, anger, or even as simple as a bad day. Through journaling and writing out how your feeling, you're refusing to give those emotions a place to live rent free. The longer you allows those emotions to live within your mind, the longer you allow them to bottle up, and the further you are from living in your truth.

Writing out and releasing my emotions helped me understand that my emotions are valid, and just because someone else doesn't understand them doesn't make them any less important. In turn, I created a safe space to where I know my emotions are seen and heard, and able to be expressed. without judgement or fear.

Gratitude

If I'm being straightforward, gratitude is the key. And that's not just, "I'm thankful for today..." You can say that all you want, but if you are not completely embracing that emotion, it's useless. You're instead saying it for the sake of saying it, but feeding into the true emotion behind what you're grateful for can be life changing.

Not only does it allow you to be more mindful throughout your day in terms of the experiences you face and the people you interact with, but it also allows you to accept your life is the current circumstance for all of its beauty and wonder... in the NOW.

Showing God and the Universe that you are grateful for everything you currently have, and I mean, TRULY grateful shows that you are ready for more things to be grateful for. When you continuously question your time to shine or when you'll finally get a break, you're putting out the energy that you aren't ready for it.

You are putting out the energy that you need this to happen in order to be happy. Coming to a place where you are okay with the thing you want or without it is a difficult place to come into, but it is more than possible.

Practice gratitude every single morning when you wake and right before you close your eyes to sleep at night, and watch how your mindset, perspective, and life shifts.

Positive Affirmations

Next, I LIIIIIIIVE for positive affirmations. Positive affirmations have truly shifted my life for the better. I used to be so quick to think on the negative, the what-ifs, the what could be, my appearance... whatever the case might have been, I was constantly thinking in opposition, creating more fear, confusion, and repressed emotions within my mind.

It was a hard transition at first after speaking so unkindly to myself, especially when I looked in the mirror for majority of my life. It's a habit that forms over time. Even if you don't believe it at first, you have to tell yourself how worthy you are, how beautiful you are, and how loved you are every single day.

Nurture that well-being. Say kind words to yourself, and treat yourself as kindly as you would want someone else to treat you. After writing out gratitude, write out your affirmations and then repeat them in the mirror to yourself. Every. Single. Day.

Soon enough, you'll be believing the very thing you once thought impossible.

Setting Healthy Boundaries

Setting healthy boundaries is something we often don't do enough. We get caught up in people pleasing and going above and beyond for the ones we care about. We constantly feel obligated to say 'yes' to people, especially if they're friends and family. And we could never hit the unfollow button out of fear of that person finding out and absolutely hating us for it.

It DOES NOT MATTER. You have to protect your energy. You have to nurture your well-being first. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone either for that matter. If your friend needs something and it's just not something you want to do, it's okay to say 'no'. It's okay to make yourself a priority. It's okay to unfollow people and unfriend them on Facebook if they make you feel bad about yourself. If you find yourself comparing your life to someone else's on social media, then this is your sign to delete them immediately.

It's okay to set boundaries. You won't ever disappoint the ones that truly care about you if you decide to choose yourself for once, and let me tell you, once you choose yourself and set those boundaries, you also teach people how to treat you in consideration to your boundaries and your emotions.

Don't ever apologize for comforting and nurturing yourself before another. In order to care for someone else and be there for them, you have to learn to set those boundaries and be there for yourself.

Nurturing the Mind and Body

In order to attract a live of abundance, health, and joy, you have to start living life as if you already have it. You have to not only nurture your emotions throughout this process, but also nurture your body and mind. You have to treat your body with care. Your mind with care.

You know if you need a mental health day. Learning what makes you feel good when you feel like life feels a little extra chaotic is a way to nurture your well-being. For this, we are so quick to try to seek comfort in codependent behaviors and relationships such as food, alcohol, friends, dating apps, etc. We want someone else to comfort us when we feel emotionally distressed, but a question to ask yourself first is if you are comforting yourself first when you feel this way? What would you want from someone else in this moment that you cannot physically provide yourself with? And learning about what comforts and nurtures you in these moments is key in finding a life of endless bliss.

Same thing goes with your physical health. You have to nurture your physical body, not pick it apart, saying you look chunky or need to lose weight or go to the gym, but moreso eating healthier foods because it energizes and makes your body feel good, as well as moving your body for the sake of movement, and doing it in a way you feel fulfilled and joyful in the moment. This will not only help in terms of weight loss and fitness goals, but it will also aid in a longer, more sustainable way of living to where you can truly embody who you are meant to be within this lifetime.

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At the end of the day, the goal is to be happy, healthy, and the most authentic YOU there is. You deserve a life of freedom. A life where you can speak your truth and be heard. A life where you can feel grateful for experience and where you are, rather than comparing your journey to someone else's.

Everyone was brought here for a different reason and purpose within this lifetime, but everyone's purpose, experiences, and life lessons are going to be different.

Using these tools allowed me to attract more than I could have ever imagined, from my true friends and family to my weight loss success and fitness transformation. Using these kept me on track, strengthened my mentality, and gave me a new outlook on my own experience in this world.

Continue to grow and nurture YOUR well-being. This is YOUR life, no one else's. Keep living, nurturing, and being your own cheerleader, and remember, you are EXACTLY where you are meant to be.